Tuesday, June 15, 2010
What Do You Do When A Relationship Does Not Work?
How do you get over something that you thought was divinely ordained? When you just felt something in your heart was suppossed to be? And was for thee betterment of yourself? Well if you know the answer let me know, In the mean time #juspray
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Black Men and White Women
Please read the link at the bottom to hear Slum Thug's opinions on Black Women and why he believes that Black Men date White Women, as I make reference to his views...Now Let's Get 2 It!
I am a Black Woman! I cannot give a perspective from any other than...
"Black Women are Gold Diggers- In it to win it, all about the benjamins," that's a cry I hear very often from our male counterparts. As I say to them, How did you meet? What were your common interest that led you all to pursue a relationship. Because if you meet her at a club with a $600.00 outfit on then the sampling pool of women to choose from may be a tad bit swayed. Then the young man in the Purple Label Sweater and Khakis, behind his Valentino eye wear declares, "I met her at a volunteer function through my job. Now she acts as if she can't get back and forth to work without me filling up gas in her car. I mean come on." So if you wifed a White Woman, provided her food, shelter, clothing and all her other needs for a period of time, she too would not become dependent on you? But Black Women take the slack being said to act differently or lower class like, in the situation than White Women. From our perspective, maybe just maybe, we have been schooled to equate financial support with responsibilities of a man. I mean when our counterparts date/marry the White Women, they assume financial responsibility (DS). Perhaps there has never been any financial or spiritual support from a man of any role in our lives? Can you fault us to the point of casting us off as a whole, breaking our chances to create productive families and nuture well balanced minds in our little Black babies? Remember, I am speaking on misunderstood, tryna keep it together, possibly issue havin, pretty much normal women. Because the White race of Women have thier Anna Nicole's, Elin Nordegren's(I bust the windows out your car, I did it cause you broke my heart), Kobe's Colorado girl and the list goes on.
" Their standards are too high. They have to understand that Successful Black Men are extinct. We're important."- Slim Thug
OOOoooooKKKKKkkkk....So now we're not good enough for the important Black Man! Wow, I guess we (as a whole remember because no Black or Wite woman is different from each other in general :) such second class citizens that we don't deserve the opportunity to date/love/marry the important Black Men. (Since we're generalizing) Black men on ly fall into these categories: 1. Dead/Jail 3. Mentally/Physically/Emotionally Handicapped 4. Went to College/Military 5. Pursued life of alcohol/drugs hanging on floating through life. And your telling me that we don't DESERVE the "important" ones!
"Black women argue all the time, and they stay mad at something!" Wellll.......You may have a point. I do agree that most of the Black Women in relationships that I have experienced do argue and yell at a higher rate than the White Women in relationships that I have experienced. For numerous reasons; 1. Condition of personal life due to the structure of her surroundings. Perhaps single, a parent, low education, no family structure (dead, jail, jus not around), little education, rape/physical abuse, mental abuse, physical health due to improper medical coverage or knowledge or lack of funds to nourish self properly, (Isn't healthy food expensive! OMGsh!)While about 93% of the dated/married White Women population does not suffer from any or very few of these issues in different contexts. But then again, the point is that Black Women are less supportive but in reality how supportive can ANY Women be when their significant other verbally and action wise instills in them that they are worthless and inferior women than the ones they live amongst. How much faith could you have in an institution that descredits your very being and believes to their core that you will never amount to much. Might you be angry too? A little harder to pacify? #imjussayin
BOTTOM LINE: Black Men as well as any man has his individual right to choose who he dates. My goal as a WOMAN, MOTHER and servant of the Most High is to evaluate my weaknesses and turn them into strengths. I am NOT A Black Woman, that is a physical characteric. I. Am. African-American, much as a Nigga ain't a Nigger. I say African-American Women, who wants a man that doesn't want them? Black and White! Get your personal game to its best and you will meet the WHATEVA COLRED MAN that is for you. **Royally Signing Off**
I am a Black Woman! I cannot give a perspective from any other than...
"Black Women are Gold Diggers- In it to win it, all about the benjamins," that's a cry I hear very often from our male counterparts. As I say to them, How did you meet? What were your common interest that led you all to pursue a relationship. Because if you meet her at a club with a $600.00 outfit on then the sampling pool of women to choose from may be a tad bit swayed. Then the young man in the Purple Label Sweater and Khakis, behind his Valentino eye wear declares, "I met her at a volunteer function through my job. Now she acts as if she can't get back and forth to work without me filling up gas in her car. I mean come on." So if you wifed a White Woman, provided her food, shelter, clothing and all her other needs for a period of time, she too would not become dependent on you? But Black Women take the slack being said to act differently or lower class like, in the situation than White Women. From our perspective, maybe just maybe, we have been schooled to equate financial support with responsibilities of a man. I mean when our counterparts date/marry the White Women, they assume financial responsibility (DS). Perhaps there has never been any financial or spiritual support from a man of any role in our lives? Can you fault us to the point of casting us off as a whole, breaking our chances to create productive families and nuture well balanced minds in our little Black babies? Remember, I am speaking on misunderstood, tryna keep it together, possibly issue havin, pretty much normal women. Because the White race of Women have thier Anna Nicole's, Elin Nordegren's(I bust the windows out your car, I did it cause you broke my heart), Kobe's Colorado girl and the list goes on.
" Their standards are too high. They have to understand that Successful Black Men are extinct. We're important."- Slim Thug
OOOoooooKKKKKkkkk....So now we're not good enough for the important Black Man! Wow, I guess we (as a whole remember because no Black or Wite woman is different from each other in general :) such second class citizens that we don't deserve the opportunity to date/love/marry the important Black Men. (Since we're generalizing) Black men on ly fall into these categories: 1. Dead/Jail 3. Mentally/Physically/Emotionally Handicapped 4. Went to College/Military 5. Pursued life of alcohol/drugs hanging on floating through life. And your telling me that we don't DESERVE the "important" ones!
"Black women argue all the time, and they stay mad at something!" Wellll.......You may have a point. I do agree that most of the Black Women in relationships that I have experienced do argue and yell at a higher rate than the White Women in relationships that I have experienced. For numerous reasons; 1. Condition of personal life due to the structure of her surroundings. Perhaps single, a parent, low education, no family structure (dead, jail, jus not around), little education, rape/physical abuse, mental abuse, physical health due to improper medical coverage or knowledge or lack of funds to nourish self properly, (Isn't healthy food expensive! OMGsh!)While about 93% of the dated/married White Women population does not suffer from any or very few of these issues in different contexts. But then again, the point is that Black Women are less supportive but in reality how supportive can ANY Women be when their significant other verbally and action wise instills in them that they are worthless and inferior women than the ones they live amongst. How much faith could you have in an institution that descredits your very being and believes to their core that you will never amount to much. Might you be angry too? A little harder to pacify? #imjussayin
BOTTOM LINE: Black Men as well as any man has his individual right to choose who he dates. My goal as a WOMAN, MOTHER and servant of the Most High is to evaluate my weaknesses and turn them into strengths. I am NOT A Black Woman, that is a physical characteric. I. Am. African-American, much as a Nigga ain't a Nigger. I say African-American Women, who wants a man that doesn't want them? Black and White! Get your personal game to its best and you will meet the WHATEVA COLRED MAN that is for you. **Royally Signing Off**
Sunday, September 13, 2009
BET on BLAST!
I am one of the thousands of Africans in America who are disgusted with the leadership role that Black Entertainment Television (BET) has taken in OUR community. Fat asses, big rims, and bottle popping seems to be the only thing that we have going on as Black people….well if you watch BET on the regular that is what is seems. Music Videos and reality shows seem to plague us even in our sleep as they are constantly broadcast on OUR station.
What does entertainment mean to US? Entertainment means hope. Entertainment equals an attempt at a peace of mind. Entertainment has often been the source for which WE are able to rise above our surroundings. Entertainment allows so many of us to escape the pain and the harshness of OUR reality. A reality that we had no help in creating.
Just when I was beginning to give up on BET as a source of inspiration, a light bulb clicked and programming changed. Today as I sit and watch OUR entertainment television, I am delighted inside and out. My Sunday morning has been filled with inspirations on every end. “Heart of the City” is a documentary that looks at Detroit’s educational system and its’ high volume of failing kids. SO? One show is not going to change the 3/10 graduation rate in one of the country’s largest cities. No. It will not. But one show can spark a light in one individual that can become one Russell Simmons. A heartfelt interest can become a Barak Obama!
Shows like Rising Icons, Pressure Cooker and even 106 and Park are becoming major sources of knowledge and the spread of relevant information for US. 106 and Park has run a “BE Successful” week featuring photos of Black graduates and success stories all around the country. What a way to shine! Uplift and congratulate those who are making steps towards the better of themselves and you give encouragement to people who have thought it impossible to better themselves. With the odds that WE as Africans in America face, I believe it is a RESPONSIBILTY of OUR few entertainment outlets (t.v. and radio) to educate, entertain and inform.
Want to check out another responsible source for OUR entertainment. WCSU Radio, Chicago State University’s very own radio station, hosts several shows by rising students. For Us By Us. Listen to me LIVE every Monday from 1 pm – 4pm CST @ wcsu.csu.edu.
Talk back with me. How has BET influenced or affected your life? Do YOU believe that entertainment outlets in the Black community have a responsibility to US?
What does entertainment mean to US? Entertainment means hope. Entertainment equals an attempt at a peace of mind. Entertainment has often been the source for which WE are able to rise above our surroundings. Entertainment allows so many of us to escape the pain and the harshness of OUR reality. A reality that we had no help in creating.
Just when I was beginning to give up on BET as a source of inspiration, a light bulb clicked and programming changed. Today as I sit and watch OUR entertainment television, I am delighted inside and out. My Sunday morning has been filled with inspirations on every end. “Heart of the City” is a documentary that looks at Detroit’s educational system and its’ high volume of failing kids. SO? One show is not going to change the 3/10 graduation rate in one of the country’s largest cities. No. It will not. But one show can spark a light in one individual that can become one Russell Simmons. A heartfelt interest can become a Barak Obama!
Shows like Rising Icons, Pressure Cooker and even 106 and Park are becoming major sources of knowledge and the spread of relevant information for US. 106 and Park has run a “BE Successful” week featuring photos of Black graduates and success stories all around the country. What a way to shine! Uplift and congratulate those who are making steps towards the better of themselves and you give encouragement to people who have thought it impossible to better themselves. With the odds that WE as Africans in America face, I believe it is a RESPONSIBILTY of OUR few entertainment outlets (t.v. and radio) to educate, entertain and inform.
Want to check out another responsible source for OUR entertainment. WCSU Radio, Chicago State University’s very own radio station, hosts several shows by rising students. For Us By Us. Listen to me LIVE every Monday from 1 pm – 4pm CST @ wcsu.csu.edu.
Talk back with me. How has BET influenced or affected your life? Do YOU believe that entertainment outlets in the Black community have a responsibility to US?
Saturday, September 12, 2009
September 11, 2001.......... Remember?
Today is September 11, 2009. Eight years ago today I was a junior in high school, bored out of my mind, sitting in a class that I don’t remember learning anything from. As I recollect, I can still feel the cold hard seat against my bum and can very much so taste the Flaming Hot Cheeto’s that I was sneaking and eating. (Students had set up black market candy stores, that’s another post about entrepreneurship :) As I drifted in and out of a good nod, my assistant principal announced on the loud speaker that “an airplane had been flown into one of the World Trade Center s’ Towers, keep their families in your prayers.” WTF? As if sataan himself was teaching the class, my professor looked up and said, “Who cares, back to the lesson.”
For those of us who experienced 9/11 outside of New York, at first it seemed as if this was really JUST a STORY on television. As if watching something so horrible, yet being able to turn it off whenever I’d had enough.
For those of us who experienced 9/11 outside of New York, at first it seemed as if this was really JUST a STORY on television. As if watching something so horrible, yet being able to turn it off whenever I’d had enough.
It was not until a second airplane flew into the second tower that my professor realized that SHE cared. Mass panic assumed in the following hours. Parents were being called, and students were rapidly evacuating the school. Some schools were put on ‘lock down’ for hours until there was some sort of resolve. There are a couple of moments in MY history that I will never forget where/what I was doing when: 1) Michael Jackson’s death. 2) September 11, 2001. 3) Michael Jackson’s verdict was read. 4) Barak Obama elected was elected the first African-American President of the United States. You know what time it is, shout it out! Share with us moments in YOUR history that you will never forget the place and time!
Friday, September 11, 2009
My First Time....Sweating and Shaking
With everybody watching.
“I cannot do this. Well. This is what I WANTED, right?” But I just feel so, so…… What’s the word?” Oooh, he’s looking. She’s looking. All waiting on me. But what if I don’t do it right? What if it doesn’t feel good to them. I know, I’ll be able to read it on their faces. Oooh that’s my song. I might as well huh? Just start with the hips, move your hips girl. That’s right, just pretend you are at the club with your girls. Just relax and ride the beat, I’m feelin’ it now.
“Ten minutes Naimah.” That’s my cue.
(Music Playing) “Backstage bouncing adrenaline building up.” I feel you on that Mystical. Sweating and shaking, sweating and shaking. Here goes nothing, here goes everything. Well just my dreams, just the culmination of 23 years of schooling, 23 years of dancing in the mirror with the brush as if I’m addressing the world. The world. Will you listen?
Tonight they will. Life’s a game and this stage is my playground.
One step. “Hey girl, good luck out there.” Right foot in front of the left. “The crowd is ready, they waiting on you Na Na.” Bend knee extend leg. “Two minutes to show time.” Breathe. “Naimah your mics on the left, notes on that table.” Breathe, for real. “Curtains open in 3,2,1………”
My First Time………. Sweating and Shaking. (This is the first time I ever hosted a live show. Performer? Artist? Personality? Holla back and let us feel your first time)
“I cannot do this. Well. This is what I WANTED, right?” But I just feel so, so…… What’s the word?” Oooh, he’s looking. She’s looking. All waiting on me. But what if I don’t do it right? What if it doesn’t feel good to them. I know, I’ll be able to read it on their faces. Oooh that’s my song. I might as well huh? Just start with the hips, move your hips girl. That’s right, just pretend you are at the club with your girls. Just relax and ride the beat, I’m feelin’ it now.
“Ten minutes Naimah.” That’s my cue.
(Music Playing) “Backstage bouncing adrenaline building up.” I feel you on that Mystical. Sweating and shaking, sweating and shaking. Here goes nothing, here goes everything. Well just my dreams, just the culmination of 23 years of schooling, 23 years of dancing in the mirror with the brush as if I’m addressing the world. The world. Will you listen?
Tonight they will. Life’s a game and this stage is my playground.
One step. “Hey girl, good luck out there.” Right foot in front of the left. “The crowd is ready, they waiting on you Na Na.” Bend knee extend leg. “Two minutes to show time.” Breathe. “Naimah your mics on the left, notes on that table.” Breathe, for real. “Curtains open in 3,2,1………”
My First Time………. Sweating and Shaking. (This is the first time I ever hosted a live show. Performer? Artist? Personality? Holla back and let us feel your first time)
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